Ok, well I've officially jumped on the band wagon of the blog spot thanks to my wonderful boyfriend, Darren. I believe he created this blog so that I could get away from myspace and all the drama it causes when I block people from seeing my blogs. Also, this is a site that my sorority sisters don't know about, therefore I can complain all I want in writing. However, since it is still a public blog, I will not be mentioning too many names or specific details. I simply like to vent a little in writing because it makes me feel better about it. I'm not really one to vocalize a lot of my problems so writing is the best thing for me. There will be happy blogs too, because well I like to think of the positives more than the negatives of life.
Alright, here it goes. Sometimes I wonder why I stay in the sorority. Right now I am facing drama of a girl who has decided to manipulate and control most of the house into doing whatever she says and she is also in charge of making room assignments for the year. Well, I refuse to be manipulated by her so consequently we have often locked horns. Well, to get back at me, she is trying to make me live in a room with someone I can not live with. This upsets me because I went to the president and she said that she didn't want to do anything about it, then I went to the chapter advisor and she doesn't want to do anything about it either. It is cowardly and I don't want to be a part of a spineless organization. When I joined, things were good. The sorority sisters were very close with one another and I felt immediately loved and accepted, which at the time was something I really needed because I was going through some rough personal stuff. They made me stay active, go out and have a good time. The supported me and helped me through it. My first semester in the house was wonderful. But things quickly changed. I was a spring baby so we had a long summer vacation between semesters. When I came back in the fall, I was overlooked for any offices I wanted to have for reasons I still don't know. Even though everyone told me that I was a good sister and someone they would want to have in an executive office. But suddenly I was overlooked and became just a sister. Which I accepted and went on to have an ok semester in the house. Then at the end of the fall semester we went up for offices again. And once again I was overlooked, I didn't understand. However, it ended up being a non issue because my grades from the fall semester prevented me from holding an office anyway. Then last semester came, and I had to fight for everything. I wanted a little sis and I had to fight for that because the rules changed all of a sudden. I wanted to go to semi formal, I had to fight for that. This was all because of my fall semester grades, but I kept giving them progress reports that showed I had mostly A's in the spring and I still had to fight to be heard. It was extremely frustrating. So, at the end of the semester I received my grades, 4 A's and 1 B. Not too shabby. But, somehow, just because it is me, it wasn't good enough to receive the room I signed up for at the end of the semester. My roommate from last year (who I love to death!), Katie and I had everything figured out, we even moved some stuff into the room we were moving into at the request of the girl assigning the rooms. So how can she change her mind 1 month before we are supposed to move back?! Now, it is too late to find other living arrangements, I can't get into the dorms, and any affordable apartments were booked long ago. So, right now I am stuck. I continue to fight it and I will until the day I move in. My roommate is fighting it too because 5 girls have their own room and we are forced into a room with 3 people. 3 of the 5 people who have their own rooms are living in a room made for 2 girls. So, it doesn't really make sense to me why they all get their own rooms except the fact that they are the girl's closest friends in the sorority. Well, I finally contacted someone in a position of "power" and she is fighting for me and Katie. Finally, someone with some integrity. She said she will get back to me on Monday, so hopefully she can get us some answers. Well, I suppose that's enough negativity for one blog.
On a more positive note, my roommate is coming down to my house this weekend and we are going to go to the lake and hang out. I'm super excited because I miss her like crazy! Anyways, I'm sure I'll have more to say on that after this weekend. Next positive thing, I really don't know what I would do without Darren, he's so wonderful! He has put up with the sorority drama and has always done everything he can to make me feel better. I love him so much and I hope he knows that I would do anything for him, just as he has done for me. Well, I'm sitting at work right now writing this blog, maybe I should do some actual work, like this dictation that seems to be a daunting task. Oh well, I am getting paid to do work so I suppose I should get to it.
Alright, here it goes. Sometimes I wonder why I stay in the sorority. Right now I am facing drama of a girl who has decided to manipulate and control most of the house into doing whatever she says and she is also in charge of making room assignments for the year. Well, I refuse to be manipulated by her so consequently we have often locked horns. Well, to get back at me, she is trying to make me live in a room with someone I can not live with. This upsets me because I went to the president and she said that she didn't want to do anything about it, then I went to the chapter advisor and she doesn't want to do anything about it either. It is cowardly and I don't want to be a part of a spineless organization. When I joined, things were good. The sorority sisters were very close with one another and I felt immediately loved and accepted, which at the time was something I really needed because I was going through some rough personal stuff. They made me stay active, go out and have a good time. The supported me and helped me through it. My first semester in the house was wonderful. But things quickly changed. I was a spring baby so we had a long summer vacation between semesters. When I came back in the fall, I was overlooked for any offices I wanted to have for reasons I still don't know. Even though everyone told me that I was a good sister and someone they would want to have in an executive office. But suddenly I was overlooked and became just a sister. Which I accepted and went on to have an ok semester in the house. Then at the end of the fall semester we went up for offices again. And once again I was overlooked, I didn't understand. However, it ended up being a non issue because my grades from the fall semester prevented me from holding an office anyway. Then last semester came, and I had to fight for everything. I wanted a little sis and I had to fight for that because the rules changed all of a sudden. I wanted to go to semi formal, I had to fight for that. This was all because of my fall semester grades, but I kept giving them progress reports that showed I had mostly A's in the spring and I still had to fight to be heard. It was extremely frustrating. So, at the end of the semester I received my grades, 4 A's and 1 B. Not too shabby. But, somehow, just because it is me, it wasn't good enough to receive the room I signed up for at the end of the semester. My roommate from last year (who I love to death!), Katie and I had everything figured out, we even moved some stuff into the room we were moving into at the request of the girl assigning the rooms. So how can she change her mind 1 month before we are supposed to move back?! Now, it is too late to find other living arrangements, I can't get into the dorms, and any affordable apartments were booked long ago. So, right now I am stuck. I continue to fight it and I will until the day I move in. My roommate is fighting it too because 5 girls have their own room and we are forced into a room with 3 people. 3 of the 5 people who have their own rooms are living in a room made for 2 girls. So, it doesn't really make sense to me why they all get their own rooms except the fact that they are the girl's closest friends in the sorority. Well, I finally contacted someone in a position of "power" and she is fighting for me and Katie. Finally, someone with some integrity. She said she will get back to me on Monday, so hopefully she can get us some answers. Well, I suppose that's enough negativity for one blog.
On a more positive note, my roommate is coming down to my house this weekend and we are going to go to the lake and hang out. I'm super excited because I miss her like crazy! Anyways, I'm sure I'll have more to say on that after this weekend. Next positive thing, I really don't know what I would do without Darren, he's so wonderful! He has put up with the sorority drama and has always done everything he can to make me feel better. I love him so much and I hope he knows that I would do anything for him, just as he has done for me. Well, I'm sitting at work right now writing this blog, maybe I should do some actual work, like this dictation that seems to be a daunting task. Oh well, I am getting paid to do work so I suppose I should get to it.
posted by Dena @ 9:35 AM
1 Comments:
At 11:30 AM,
Katie Fries said…
Hi, Dena. It sounds like you're going through a rough and frustrating time (not unlike my experience at my former place of employment). Is there somebody at the school you can take your complaints to, like somebody who oversees all the sororities and fraternities?
The good news is, college is almost over, and you don't have to be friends with these people for the rest of your life. You'll stay close to some people who will always be there for you, and your relationships with others will just fade away. It sounds like you have a good support system in Darren and your roommate.
I hope things get resolved, and that things will get better soon. Also, welcome to the blogospere! I'm glad you and Darren and my sis are here because I refuse to get a MySpace, yet it's nice to keep up with what's going on in your lives. (Oh, and 4 As and a B is *definitely* not shabby.)
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